1. Playfighting is allowed, real fights are not. If you visit my home you will here me asking, "Is this a playfight or a real fight?" If both children answer, "playfight!" then it's allowed. If not, it will stop immediately.
2. To qualify as a "playfight" both children must agree it's a playfight. In otherwords, if one child thinks it's a playfight and the other one feels it's a real fight, then it must stop immediately.
3. There are some risks involved. If you choose to playfight, you may get hurt. If this happens, I usually recommend that the child takes a break. When I recommend this, the child usually all-of-a-sudden feels better and decides that to keep playing would be way more fun than taking a break, and maybe is not feeling so hurt after all.
4. Koa just can't wait to get in on the action.
Here's what I'm talking about... beware this video is not for the faint of heart. You may see some intense moments, but just look and you'll see the smiles on the faces. It's taken me awhile to understand the strange world of boys - but I think stuff like this is a huge part of it, and possibly very necessary...
